Do you ever feel like it's time to find new friends? Lasting friendships can take great shape from inner circles or from a workplace. But when you're seeking elsewhere, it can be challenging if you're not following your intuition. However, here is a simple guide to help you with that process.
In order to make new friends, you first need to know what it is you’re looking for. We all have different needs when it comes to friendships. You have your own set of interests, passions and values. So, you’re going to need friends who fit in with your personality type.
In order to make genuine friendships, it’s important to pay attention to the types of people you’re letting in. So, let’s take a look at how to determine what it is you want from a friend…
What Beliefs and Morals Are Most Important to You in a Friend?
The first thing to consider when you’re looking for new friends, is what beliefs and morals you want them to have.
Our beliefs and morals determine who we are as people. They also establish which types of people we should surround ourselves with. If something is really important to you, you’ll naturally want it to be important to your friends and loved ones too.
While certain differences are healthy in a friendship, a difference in morals and beliefs can be toxic. So, think about the morals and beliefs you want your friends to share.
What Type of Friendship Do You Want?
Another thing to consider is what type of friendship you want. Are you looking for a friend you can meet up with daily, or is once a week or a month ideal for you? Some people openly admit that they are high maintenance friends. This means that they need more attention than others.
So, figuring out what type of friendship you want is key to finding the right people. Consider how much time you have to dedicate to the friendship and whether you want someone you can simply just do things with, or whether you want a deeper type of friendship.
Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations
While you want to be picky with who your friends are, it’s important not to be too picky! Having unrealistic expectations is only going to lead to hurt and anger. So, what exactly are unrealistic expectations when you’re looking for a new friend?
Unrealistic expectations you may have right now include:
Expecting a bond instantly
Sharing your deepest secrets within a short time
Expecting friends to be there for you no matter what is going on in their life
Expecting to see them again right away
Expecting an instant bond with someone new is unrealistic. While it does happen, most of the time good friends start out as acquaintances. You might not develop a bond for months and it takes effort to get to know someone.
This means you’re not going to be sharing your deepest secrets anytime soon. You also can’t expect friends to be there even when they have a lot going on in their own lives. Sometimes they will be there for you, and other times you’ll need to be there for them.
If you are wondering what to look for in a friend because you want to make meaningful friendships, the above are the main things to consider. Knowing what you want from a friend is going to help you find them.
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